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Mijos, there's love
in the air, and your dear ol' Papi thinks it's a great time to
be romantic-or even just happy! So whatever is on your mind-even
if it includes boy troubles, let me give you some father-to-son
advice. Just write me at dearpapi@yahoo.com.
Dear Papi,
I'm a 14-year-old Latino boy and I'm QV (sort of). I want to
meet a boy my same age. Can you introduce me to a QV boy-Latino
and cute-that could talk to me? There are no QVs around where
I live, and my parents don't know that I'm QV, yet. I'm really
lonely. Can you try? Thanks a lot!
-Waiting in Virginia
Dear Waiting in Virginia,
There are free organizations that you can join in your area such
as the QV & Lesbian Adolescent Social Services-for ages
12 to 19, where you can meet other youth and also where you can
talk to a counselor about your sexual orientation. But whatever
you do, mijo, just remember you have plenty of time in the years
ahead to meet a boy and "fall in love." In the meantime,
concentrate on school and have fun being a teenager. Try to get
some support about your sexuality by speaking to a counselor.
Good luck mijo!
Dear Papi,
I am a 21-year-old Latino male student at a private Christian
university. I am QV, am in the closet, and would hate to see
the response that I would receive if I came out. I know I will
not lose the love of my Lord, but my family and my Christian
friends are very homophobic. I started using Crystal Meth to
feel better, and I have satisfied my sexual desires by fooling
around. I am lost and need a way out of the hell that I am living.
May the Lord bless you, and give you the strength to keep up
the awesome job that you are doing.
-In His Awesome name, Mr. B.
Dear Mr. B,
You need to place yourself in a supportive environment. You need
to feel what it feels like to be fully accepted and this might
begin by speaking to a counselor, who can support you, and help
you with your drug problem. It saddens me to hear about the prejudices
at a Christian university, especially when there are plenty of
other Christians, who have been blessed with God's love and who
can show God's love to everyone-regardless of a person's sexual
orientation. Once you feel strong enough to withstand any unsupportive
environment, you will feel free to be who you are. And no matter
what happens in your life, if you always remember that God loves
you, and if you love Him, then worry not about anything else-not
even your school friends. Hang in there, mijo, because there
is light at the end of the tunnel.
Dear Papi,
My boyfriend and I broke up because he claimed he was bisexual
and wanted to see if he still had it for girls. Then he started
seeing this girl, but eventually broke up with her. Afterwards,
he wanted me back, but I gave him the cold shoulder because I
had met another guy. But now that tables have turned. I want
him back, but he's dissing me on the phone. He's got me begging
for him back so much that I can't concentrate. I love him a lot
and he knows it. How do I save this relationship that I want?
-Emergency
Dear Emergency,
The fact that your boyfriend broke up with you-not because you
were fighting (or for any reason that involves you), but because
he wanted to see if he still had "it" for girls-shows
a lack of respect to the entire relationship. Of course, it doesn't
matter if a guy is bisexual, but if he chooses a partner, then
he should be with that partner and only that partner. He should
not be thinking about other people, which includes thinking about
whether or not he still has "it" for them. Although
he was honest enough to tell you what was on his mind before
messing around, and although I know you want to save the relationship
with him, you deserve someone better. You deserve someone who
will respect the relationship and respect you, too.
Dear Papi,
I am African American, and I've always been attracted to Latinos.
The thing is that I just can't seem to find Latinos, who are
interested in dating black men. How can I meet one special man
who's spiritual and proud to be a Latino, and who's ready
for a serious long term, committed, monogamous relationship?
-Loco for Latinos.
Dear Loco for Latinos,
It takes time to find the right man-Latino or not, but if you
set your mind to it, and if you're dedicated enough, you will
find the man of your liking. To meet Latino guys, you can start
by becoming involved with Latino organizations, where you
can talk to Latinos and simply say, "I'm here because I
respect the Latino culture, and I'd like to meet a Latino man."
If you surround yourself in a pool of Latinos, you will eventually
find one who is attracted to you. Put yourself where the odds
are in your favor! Good luck and tell me how it goes.
Write to Dear Papi! Send a letter to dearpapi@yahoo.com. Please
address all letters to Dear Papi.
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