PAPI IS IN!
you ever wished relationships werent so complicated? I mean, wouldnt
it be nice to find the right guy, the first time, then fall in love
and have everything turn out right? Well, life isnt quite that
simple. But its all about learning and growing, and believe me,
with relationships, you certainly learn and grow! So whatever is happening
to you in your life right now, let me know. E-mail me at DearPapi@qvMagazine.com
Im a 25 year old Latino male in a two year relationship. When
I met my partner, I was 60 pounds heavier and not looking too good.
Eventually, the weight came off, and it turned out Im a pretty
good looking guy! Ive even been asked to model. Its all
good for me. Ive found a new me...a healthy sexy Latino, and Im
getting a lot of attention from other guys. On several occasions, Ive
cheated on my man, and I dont know what to do. I care very much
for him, and I don't want to hurt him. Of course, I respect him for
being there for me before the weight loss, but now Im beginning
to live a fast and exciting new lifestyle. What should I do? Please
Of course, you have a right to enjoy your life by being more good-looking
than ever, but you shouldnt cheat on your partner...thats
not fair to him. It would have been better, as difficult as this may
seem, to have ended the relationship with your partner than to have
cheated on him. What you can do now is evaluate your options. What do
you want? Do you want your current relationship or do you want to explore
whats out there? You should decide on one or the other. If your
heart is telling you to explore, then consider moving on. But if your
heart is telling you that you have a good man right now, then dont
leave. But whatever you do, dont live a life of lie. Be honest
with yourself...and be honest with the man you are seeing.
Im a straight girl and I just found out that my boyfriend is bisexual.
I found a porno with only men on it, and I confronted him about it.
He told me its his video and that he has been trying to figure
out if he really likes guys. He seems confused, and I dont know
what to do. He says he has never cheated on me, which I believe, but
I don't think I can be with him now if he really is a bisexual. I need
Just because your boyfriend revealed to you that hes bisexual,
he really hasnt done anything wrong, and you shouldnt end
the relationship based on that! Now if youre concerned that hes
going to cheat on you with another guy, then remember its the
factor of cheating thats the problem herenot the sexual
orientation. It doesnt matter if hes straight or bisexual,
if hes going to be with you, then he should have no interest in
being with another person. So based on what you have told me, since
he hasnt cheated on you, theres no need to break up, but,
of course, the minute he crosses the line, then consider moving on!
Good luck, mija!
I have read most of your responses to your mijos. A lot of the advice
youve given them has helped me become more comfortable with who
I am. For me, Im in between the stages of being not comfortable
and being comfortable about being QV. These are steps Im taking
one day at a time. Again, thanks for your advice and support to the
people out there!
Thank you for your comments. I appreciate it. I always say the purpose
of my column is to build independence, encourage strength, and to simply
let people know, that yes, you can be QV, Latino, and, of course, live
a productive life thats fulfilling. So feel proud of who you are
and be comfortable with yourself! Remember being QV is not a choice.
But even though its not a choice, its probably one of the
best things in your life! Why? Because its a connection to another
human being. You still get to love. You still get to make love. You
still get to experience some of the best feelings youll ever have!
And theres no substitute for that! Good luck, mijo!
I am a teacher. I never saw myself able to become interested in one
of my students, especially a teen student. I know the law and the professional
ethics. However, recently one 17 year old has been flirting with me,
and Ive only been nice, but I find myself intrigued and somewhat
curious. Its hard because I know what I have to door not
do. However, I still find myself fantasizing. Crazy Lately
You will be tempted from other people including your own students, but
definitely, in this case, obey the law! Do not let a little bit of affection
get you into a lotand I mean, a lot of trouble. Even if the student
was 18 years oldand of legal age, I would suggest you maintain
your professional ethics and still not get involved with him. In essence,
Id rather you be known as a good teacher whos professional,
smart, fun, caring, and helpfulas opposed to one who makes
out with his students. If anything, theres plenty of men
outside of your professional life so why jeopardize your career for
a bit of fun. Its not worth the journey, and its a waste
of your time.