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Chill Out, Dad...Being QV Aint No Big Deal!
DADS CAN SOMETIMES be hard to please in general! And when youre QV...whew! Can you imagine having a conversation with him about that? Well, in our latest qvSurvey, you did, so to speak! Given the chance, heres what YOU would want to tell your father about what it means to be a homosexual. So come on dads, loosen upand listen to what your QV sons have to tell you!
just to let you know, QV people have the same problems as straight
people. The only thing is that we have a stigma over our heads like
a grand piano waiting to land on us.
Dad, to me,
being QV is like being male or Chicanoor anything else that makes
me who I am. It just is. Its nothing I put on, but rather a component
of my being. Its who I am!
QV is something I have no control over. I was born this way and just
like my hair is black and my eyes are brown, it is a part of my body,
spirit, and mind. I am proud of who I am.
Dad, I just
want you to know that being QV has really allowed me to be truly happy
and to live my life without deceit.
not a choice, dad, yet it can, still, be a rich and fulfilling experience!
Dad, I have
tried to live up to your expectations. Sorry, if I failed you. I didnt
choose to be QV. You know Ive always looked up to you and wanted
to be like you, but this is who I am. I love you, dad, and always haveyou
mean the world to me!
Dad, I am
still the son you held in your arms when I was born. I am no different
QV means that Im certain about the way I feel, and it isn't a
disease or a handicap. Its rather my true self telling me who
I just want you to know that there is nothing wrong with me being QV.
You need to look at the good things Ive accomplished and not at
my sexual orientation.
dont know how happy I am that I can finally be me and not have
to lead a double life anymore! But most of all, thanks for all the support
and love. I love you!
Dad, I hope
that you dont think that I am a disappointment because I am QV.
Also, I dont want you to blame yourself for anything that you
did or didnt do to make me QV. I am QV because I am.
QV is really not different from being straight. Im still am the
same person you know and love. The only difference is that my heart
belongs to a man.
Dad, I think
you still wonder, from time to time, if it was something you did that
contributed to me being QV (like us not spending enough time together,
or you not being at home often enough, etc). I know its one of
the most difficult things for you to accept, but dad, our relationship
should not be based on my sexual orientation.
QV is not about sex, makeup, and femininity! We are the same as everyone
elsewe have a heart, too.
QV doesnt mean having a lack of masculinity. I am still a man.
The difference is that my QV soul allows me to express the feminine
side that all men have. Ive seen my brothers with their buddies,
and Ive seen the obvious affection and love they have for each
other, but they hide it because it scares them. Straight men love their
buddies for a lot of the same reasons women love men. But theyre
afraid thatll make them QV. Well, dad, I am QV. And that means
that I love men both ways. I love them the way you love your buddies
and the way mom loves you.
Papi, I just
happen to like boys instead of girls, but I am still the same fine young
man that you raised. I just wish you would take the time to realize
that being QV also means that Im still human and that I need
my family just as much as you did when you were young!
for being such a great father, for loving me for who I am.
for not making me feel any less of a son to you. Your love and support
is key in my life, and I will always love you and respect you! Youre
my best friend.
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