Triumphs! Triumphs! Triumphs! The
accomplishment of finding Mr. Right can be a triumph in itself,
que no? Of course, the process can sometimes take you on a roller
coaster ride that you would rather avoid so if guy troubles are
getting you down, or whatever it is that's on your mind, then
talk to me. E-mail me at DearPapi@qvMagazine.com
I am a 23 year old Latino. I have not felt like myself in
nearly two years. Everything I know has been pulled out from
under me. I have been distancing myself from my family and friends.
I don't feel as if they care for me too much. I can't even talk
to my only other QV friend because his boyfriend hates me. I
find it very hard to talk to people so I haven't made any new
QV friends, and plus, I am always afraid they will hurt me.
I am tired of being alone and scared. No matter what I do, my
low self-esteem gets the worst of me, and I give up and crawl
into bed. This has hurt me both emotionally and physically. What
should I do? Who can I turn to? -Tired of being me!
I'm concerned for your well-being as I think you need to get
some support now! Look in the phone book, search the internet,
or look in the back of qvMagazine for QV support groups in your
area. Call them up and tell them what you've been feeling lately.
Tell them you are feeling a bit down, and that you're tired of
being alone and scared. You can mention that you want to meet
new people, but that you are afraid. Open your heart because
they are there to help you. Just remember that you are not alone,
especially as a Latino. There are a lot of people out there
who are willing to give you support, but you have to make the
first move. It will get easier from that point because you will
start to see life in a positive way. Mijo, you owe it to yourself
to live a happy life-and it can be a reality if you start within
yourself! Be strong, be positive, and make that call, mijo!
My friend and I met this wonderful guy who is entering a Mr.
Latino competition. I want my friend to come with me to see
this guy compete, but my friend is in a wheelchair and I am afraid
that it would be hard for him to navigate in the club. The club
is very small, and it gets packed. What should I tell him? -Lino
Talk to your friend and be honest with him. Let him know you
really want him to go with you, yet you are concerned that it
might be hard for him to navigate. If your friend still says
he still wants to go, then be there for him. Take the opportunity
to show him a good time and be accommodating to him. Remember
that you have many opportunities to go out, so extend this opportunity
to him and be a friend If he wants to go, take him out and help
him have a night to remember. That's what friends are for!
My problem is that I met this guy online-in a M4M chatroom, and
I've been talking to him for about six months now. Once, we fooled
around. Recently, he told me he has a girlfriend and that he's
straight. Now, he talks about his girlfriend a lot, and I can
tell he really likes her. When I asked him why he was in a M4M
room, he said he was curious-at the time. What should I do? I
think I'm falling for him. -Anonymous
I know you don't want to hear this, but it's time to move on!
Mijo, you might feel hurt now, but I'd rather you hurt now, than
hurt along the way as you wait for a guy who may never be there
for you. Whether this guy is straight, QV, or bisexual, he is
making it clear that he has somebody else so you need to take
control of your own life. Don't let him make you hold onto him.
Go out, meet new people, find a new man. And when you do, make
certain that he will be there for you-and only you! Good luck,
I recently was elected to a seat on the local board of education
in my community after I beat five other candidates, including
two incumbents. I also work as a news reporter. I am a 23 year
old Latino-educated, decent looking and with a good personality.
It seems as if my life is in high swing, correct? But not necessarily.
I'm QV and it's been hard to go out and meet anyone because
I'm afraid it might hurt my career on a highly conservative school
board, not to mention my political career. Can you imagine the
uproar of parents and community members if they found out I was
QV? Remember, I live in a very conservative community. What
kind of advice can you give me on my situation? Thank you very
much! -Mr. News Reporter
Dear News Reporter,
It's easy to see that your career is very important to you so
continue to progress with it and continue to earn the success
that you are earning. But just as important, if not more, is
your health and your development as a human being. It's unfortunate
that society seems to judge people based on their sexual orientation,
but what you have to do first is feel comfortable with yourself.
Allow yourself to not live with that sense of fear that someone
is going to find out about you! Life is too short to put yourself
in that negative atmosphere! The goal is to replace that fear
with an inner peace that reminds you that it's okay to be QV
and that if anything, it's now your choice to let people find
out about you-or not! If someone finds out about you in your
town and causes an uproar, it's not the end of the world as you
can either open their minds and "fight" the battle,
or simply take you and your career to another city!
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