What Is A Real Man?
 Just
about everyone has a preconceived notion about "what a real
man is," and what it takes to be that "real man."
In the straight community, whether one agrees or not, it might
be a guy who is tough, flirts with all the girls, one who is
proud to be a casanova, and doesn't show any emotions. So then,
in the QV community, what is our definition of a real man? Here's
what you told us:
"To be a real man means you have to act the opposite of
a real woman!" -20 years old, San Diego, CA
"A real man has a
heart." -18
years old, Diamond Bar, CA
"A real man is someone
who is comfortable with his own sexuality regardless of whether
he is QV, bi, or straight." -31 years old, Fort Worth, TX
"It takes a real man
to cry and to come out of the closet. QV men are real men because
of what we go through. It's not easy for us." -17 years old, Calexico,
CA
"Through out my life,
I have met QV men who say they are 'real men' because they play
out the masculine role. But to me, a real man is one who is not
afraid to feel and love, one who is comfortable with who he is,
not trying to be what he is supposed to be. Someone who is responsible
and dependable and not afraid to stand up for what he cares for
the most." -25
years old, San Francisco, CA
"I think to be a 'real
man' you need a penis and that's it (lol)! You can't base your
gender on your thoughts, what you believe in, or how butch you
are."
-22 years old, Los Angeles, CA
"A real man is whatever
you feel like. Are you male? Are you human? Then you are a real
man." -17
years old, Houston, TX
"A real man is a state
of mind. You can be the most macho studly jock on the block,
and still be a jerk. I've met effeminate QV guys who were more
of a man than the macho types." -50 years old, Palm Springs, CA
"To be a real man
means you should treat the person you're with like a real person
and to be able to take care of yourself." -17 years old, Arvada,
CO
"It doesn't matter
if a man is masculine or feminine. To be a real man means you
have to be in touch with yourself, know who you are, and be vulnerable." -39 years old, Dallas,
TX
"A real man is someone
who can withstand the emotional stresses of life, but at the
same time, he can be gentle, understanding, compassionate, and
romantic when the time comes for it." -21 years old, Los Angeles, CA
"A real man means
being the dominant role in society." -24 years old, Philadelphia, PA
"A real man is a person
who is loving, caring, and most of all, respectful! Many times,
men forget about respect, which is the basis of any relationship-whether
romantic, friendly, or sexual." -20 years old, El Monte, CA
"A real man is someone
who is assured of himself and takes responsibility for himself.
He has control of his life and knows how to depend on himself.
Also, he doesn't deny himself happiness and doesn't reject his
hidden emotions-that's what it is to be un hombre!" -21 years old, Bronx,
NY
"A real man is someone
who takes responsibility for his actions-whether good or bad."
-41 years
old, Jersey City, NJ
"To be a real man
does not mean you have to be masculine. A real man means being
honest, caring, and most importantly, responsible. There are
many QV people who get married to women and live a lie. They
are not man enough to be themselves and stop lying." -22 years old, New York,
NY
"To be a real man,
you must be confident and happy with who you are as a whole person.
Your sexuality is just one aspect of a multi-faceted whole. Beyond
sexuality, there lies a soul that must be pure. If you are honest
with who you are, honest with the one that you love, and honest
with the world and He who created it and you, then what else
is there to worry about?" -28 years old, San Antonio, TX
"A real man isn't
afraid to take risks. Real men never use violence as a solution
and always want to make others feel at ease around them." -22 years old, Pasadena,
CA
"A real man is someone
who is true to himself, and doesn't pretend to be something he
is not-like pretending to be straight when he's QV." -35 years old, New York,
NY
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