The qvPapi Is In!
As your Dear Papi, it's great to be here, and as
always, I'm here to help you in any way possible. Of course,
I know that "boy" troubles are a part of life, and
it's a painful feeling to have your heart broken, so if this
is happening to you, or if there's anything else on your mind,
talk to me. E-mail me at DearPapi@qvMagazine.com.
Hola Dear Papi,
This
letter comes from Russia. For years, I spent a lot of time in
Latin America and had close Latin friends there. Then I had to
return back to Moscow, where I work and live-and was born. My
problem is that here in Moscow, there's no Latino community (straight
or QV), and I can't find a Russian guy for my taste because
I like Latin men. What should I do? Thank you.
Dear Russian Friend,
It
seems like you have a lot going for you in Moscow right now.
You have your career and your life and that seems to be a high
priority for you. So what's important to do is ask yourself if
you can afford to make some changes in your life. If you see
yourself with a Latino man, then consider making some steps now
so that you can be with one in the future. Of course, it would
be a very big step for you to leave everything behind just for
a man-Latino or not. But this is your life, and this is your
heart, and you only live once, so make yourself happy. If anything,
maybe you might find someone, who'll be willing to move back
to Russia with you. Good luck!
Dear Papi,
I'm a 27 year
old Latino. I've been told I'm attractive and have all the
qualities to become the greatest partner there is. Unfortunately,
I can't find a decent guy out there. All the guys I meet are
these no-life-havin', broke, barely-can-communicate, low-self-esteem,
weird, all-I-want-is-sex-from-you brothas. Que me pasa? Que hago?
-Sleepless in NY
Dear Sleepless in NY,
Be
assured that there are plenty of men out there who are right
for you and who meet a lot of your qualifications. But be very
flexible in what you want in a man. Instead of trying to find
perfection or someone who'll meet 100% of your qualifications,
try finding someone who'll meet 70-90% of your qualifications.
Allow yourself the chance to meet more men, and get to know them
on a deeper level. See through their "flaws" and give
yourself the chance to discover what could be a great person
inside!
Dear Papi,
I'm a 19 year
old QV "Peruano" from New Jersey, and I have a 23
year-old Dominicano boyfriend. We've been together for two years,
and my soul belongs to him. Anyway, his best friend has been
flirting with me-behind my boyfriend's back. This has been happening
for a year now, and I've been meaning to tell my boyfriend, but
I don't want to cause any problems. What should I do? -Francisco
Dear Francisco,
Talk to
your boyfriend's friend, and tell him to stop flirting with you-now!
Tell him it's not fair to put you in the middle like this, and
ask him what kind of a friend is he to want to hurt his best
friend this way. If after you talk to him, and he continues to
flirt with you, then talk to your boyfriend. I know you're hesitant
in talking to your man because as you say it, you don't want
to cause any problems, but just remember that it's not you, who's
causing any problems. It's you, who's trying to stop them. If
anything, stand your ground and take control over this situation.
Tell your boyfriend's friend you mean, "No!"-now.
Dear Papi,
I am African-American
and my boyfriend of seven months is Mexican. We have a lot of
fun together but sometimes cultural issues crop up. For instance,
one time, we went to a Mexican restaurant, and the meal I ordered
had avocados in it. I don't like avocados so I didn't eat it.
But my boyfriend got mad at me and said I was being offensive
and prejudiced against Mexican food. Another time, he got mad
at me when I said I didn't really care for Tejano Music. I'll
listen to it if he plays it, but I am not a huge fan of it. Things
like this and other situations are starting to push me to the
edge. Can you please suggest some course of action? Muchas gracias.
-Frustrated with love.
Dear Frustrated with love,
Your
boyfriend needs to understand that you are an individual and
you are entitled to your own taste in food and music. You are
allowed to have unique preferences and shouldn't be forced to
conform to somebody else's. Just because you don't like something
he likes doesn't make you prejudice, and because of your dislike,
doesn't give him the right to get mad at you and try to change
you. If anything, tell your man that you love him and respect
his individuality, and in return, if he can respect your individuality
and your individual tastes as well.
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dearpapi@qvmagazine.com.
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