The qvPapi Is In!
As your Dear Papi, it's great to be here, and as
always, I'm here to help you in any way possible. Of course,
I know that boy troubles are a part of life, and it's a painful
feeling to have your heart broken, so if this is happening to
you, or if there's anything else on your mind, talk to me. E-mail
me at DearPapi@qvMagazine.com.
In high school,
I had this friend who was open about his QV sexuality. At the
time, he asked me if I was into fellas, and because I didn't
want others to know I was QV, I told him, "No!" Anyway,
we both graduated, and I still talk to him, but how can I tell
him I'm QV even after I told him that I didn't get into fellas?
It should be
easy to talk to your friend about your QV sexuality, especially
since you know your friend is QV, too. As a friend, he should
understand that in high school, you were not ready to come out.
But now that you have graduated and now that there's no high
school peer pressure, you can tell him you feel more comfortable
revealing yourself. It seems like you two could become even better
friends now. If anything, you both will be able to talk about
all your common interests without holding back. Good luck, mijo
and open that closet door.
I am a 21
year old Latino male. My problem is that I'm great friends
with my cousin, Oscar, who is only 15 years old. I'm not sure
how he will react when he finds out that I'm bisexual or possibly
QV. I think he has a clue because he notices that I don't have
a girlfriend. My question is, "Will he still hang around
me if he knows about my sexuality?" I would be hurt if my
relationship with him ended because of my situation. -Anonymous
If you think
Oscar suspects that you might be QV or bisexual, you should
probably talk to him and let him know that a friendship should
not be based on one's sexuality. Instead, it should be based
on whether or not a person has a good heart. You might have to
test the waters first to see how Oscar feels about QV or bisexual
people in general. Of course, if you do decide to come out, Oscar
might need some time for himself, but in the end, if he truly
values your friendship and if he truly values you as a family
member, then he should love you for who you are. Good luck, mijo!
My name is
Ed, and I met this guy about a month ago. We've been going out,
but he's been telling me that he has somebody. I don't know if
he really has someone or if he's just telling me that to see
what my reaction will be. In either case, I like him a lot, but
I don't know what to think about him. -Ed
with this guy is only in its early stages and he's already giving
off bad signals. If he really does have a boyfriend, yet is still
seeing you, then that's a sign of bad character. Be assured that
if you do get together with him, he'll mostly likely cheat on
you, too. Now on the other side, if he doesn't have a boyfriend
then he's obviously playing head games with you. In either case,
the guy doesn't sound like a very good person and you should
move on. You need to find a relationship with an honest man who
is indeed single and who will give you respect-from the start.
I have a little
bit of a problem. I am a very attractive 20 year old black male.
I love Latin guys. But whenever I am attracted to a particular
guy, he'll tell me he's not interested in me because I'm black.
That really hurts me. Then I'll meet another Latino, who'll tell
me he loves black guys, which is cool, but then I won't be attracted
to him. What should I do? -Black guy in WeHo.
Dear Black guy in WeHo,
life, finding the right soul mate takes time. And believe it
or not, whether you're short or tall, skinny or fat, black, brown,
or white, there will eventually be someone who's going to be
attracted to you-and whom you will be attracted to as well. So
if you are looking for a Latino man, my suggestion is, of course,
to keep on trying, but make the journey fun. Keep the doors open
to love, but don't force it. Your character should be the reason
why someone does or doesn't want to be with you, not the shade
of your skin. Good luck with everything!
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